Any subconscious behavior has to be controlled with a lot of effort and focus to change.

Almost no one I have ever met has changed a subconscious behavior, just because I asked in a certain way.

Walking can be met half way, or I can adjust _my_ gait to match there's. There's no equivalent to an irritating behavior.

I've had nice conversations about it, the person listened, but was only able to be reasonable quiet for a short period of time. And then simply reverted. (they didn't care)

I found the best solution was simply to face this head on and deaden my reactions to it. This reduced my reactions to a living tolerable level.

His view on situations like this are enlightening.

He knows the difference between true dictatorships and political wranglings in the news. No system is perfect, and bad things happen to good people every day.

In this circumstance, it looks like this person didn't follow all the appropriate rules related to the entering the US. (visa issues)

My Chinese friend does not understand why people try to break the rules, get caught, and cry foul. Your treatment in his home country would be considerably worse. He is following all the laws to get US citizenship. Should his due diligence be considered a waste of time?

I also had a relative that overstayed her visa in a foreign country and was constantly afraid of being deported. Why should the expectations of foreigners in US be different from every other country in the world?

But, the grumpy and the veterans won out, because they just didn't see the value in making a change like this. sigh

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c80y3yx1jdyo

"...when she reached the border [Canada], Mr Burke said the Canadian authorities denied her entry as they were concerned she may try to work illegally."

Unfortunately, a lot of the homeless I knew were very proud, arrogant, angry, bitter and many other emotions that made it nearly impossible to get them to take care of themselves through any intervention.

And if people refuse to take care of themselves, they will always be in a state where they need others to step in. Once they become destructive to society, I don't think any expectation of mercy from leadership should be expected. That leads to the situations we currently see in some places today.

It's not the lack of shelter that's the issue. There's plenty of shelter and housing if you want it.

What is the reasonable amount of time it should take for him to be able to get a green card and work here in the US?

And is there something he can do to help expedite any process(es) (maybe not a greencard?) so he can legally work and support himself and his new family?

This same applies here with ghosts. People needed to know they _could_ be fooled, how it was done doesn't matter, because people were being scammed and were afraid of things that weren't ghosts.

Proving something is a ghost has never been done, so ghost scams is a good thing to educate people on.

This is very important to future critical thinking because this gave people evidence to back up being skeptical for future illusions that they can't immediately explain.

Currently, HN is the only place on the internet I am willing to interact with others _because_ it lacks the "social layer" you are recommending.

The focus on user comments that are thoughtful, relevant, and respectful _is_ the social connection I value.

I think you have this backwards. By default the creator owns the code. (unless you agree in writing otherwise) Some exceptions I am aware of (IANAL) is if you are an employee, then the employer owns the code by default.

Under the "work for hire" clause, I think (?) that if you are commissioned for the work as an individual, you should have the copyright by default but may not have the copyright based on agreements made. But if you are commissioned as a business entity, your business entity would own the copyright. (again, unless explicitly agreed otherwise)

If someone else can chime here, as I may be wrong on this.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Work_for_hire

Any side effects you got from Metagelan?

Any idea how/why it works for you?

So I keep ibuprofen in every car, bag, and a few places around the house.

I have a coworker that uses his quick talking ability to manipulate, accuse and scam his way through meetings and his daily work. He is management level (so am I) and it's impossible to have reasonable discussions for many reasons.

My solution:

I graciously communicate in a professional manner, work properly with this person as a normal work flow. I listen and give my feedback and this works really well to make the day go smoothly for both of us and anyone else in the area.

After any encounters with this person, I think about what happened, I make some notes about the events (date stamp it as well) and then let it sit in my mind until the next day at a minimum.

I have found that after doing this, I realized what really happened, (if I was tricked or manipulated or not) and then I do all of my responses in email.

I do not even try to do it verbally. In fact I have told this person and upper management, that I am not comfortable talking about events _because_ I am do not have quick responses to ward off the manipulations (I don't call it this to upper management though).

I state plainly that I do not want confrontation, and I just want to do my job, and I get too emotional and can sometimes communicate poorly verbally.

This is a reasonable statement, and I no longer have to replay my conversations when things go wrong, because I do it all in writing.

This has had the side benefit of causing this bully to back down, because he has relied on hiding behind clever wording and phrasing that I could not counter. And because I am being very open about my responses, he knows he would have to do the same if we wants to respond and his true motivations and intent would be revealed.

So I am now simply happier at work. I hope this helps some.

https://apnews.com/article/plastic-nano-bottled-drinking-wat...