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New comment by daveatwork in "Malicious compliance by booking an available meeting room"

daveatwork — Thu, 15 May 2025 22:35:59 +0000

I'd go a step further.. The prof was expressing empathy for the students that made the effort to be on time. They made it.

If you know you're late all the time, then make allowances. 8 hours not enough sleep, go to bed earlier. 1 hour not enough time to wake up, set your alarm to give you 2 hours.

This isn't related to knowing you're sick, just knowing you're late often.

It always makes me wonder when I hear "empathy, tolerance, flexibility" pointed at a group of 30 or more, who need to work around one persons inability to do the same.

I had a co-worker who was always late. I told her she was lying when she said she'd be there at 2. She got miffed. I replied. "You're late so often, do you expect you'll be on time. I know you'll try, but do you really believe you're not going to be late." She paused. "If you know you're very likely going to be late and tell me you will be somewhere at time X, then you are lying."

New comment by daveatwork in "Malicious compliance by booking an available meeting room"

daveatwork — Thu, 15 May 2025 22:28:05 +0000

What of the ADD student who gets distracted when someone comes in late? What should we tell them. "Suck it up"

What of the daycare that's expecting you to show up and pick up your kids on time. Should we tell the workers to wait, because the guy replacing you at work was late. Then of course we tell the cleaners of the daycare to start their shift 30 mins later because they have to wait for the last kid to leave. Oh and the cleaners will have to stay 30 min extra to clean, so now we tell the people relying on them to wait. Or.. Or we tell the cleaners to work a bit harder so they don't take an extra 30 minutes..

So the 30min you're late messes up the day of not just the person expecting you, but all the people expecting them.

How about on principle anticipate that you're going to be late, and make an effort to arrive early. If you know you're late all the time, start giving yourself more time.

New comment by daveatwork in "Malicious compliance by booking an available meeting room"

daveatwork — Thu, 15 May 2025 22:17:39 +0000

Why not. I mean if you're expected to come and relieve a co-worker at 5pm, because he has to go get his kids from daycare, and you show up at 5:30 so now the police are at the daycare collecting his kids (because he's waiting for you all the time)

It always baffles me. Make accommodations for your conditions.. So the 30 plus students are meant to have their time interrupted by a late arrival. I have ADD, so when in a class if someone comes in late, I get distracted and can't pay attention. Which person should this prof accomodate? Me with ADD or you.

The "make accommodations" is always argued by the few, against the needs of the many. It's self centred. If waking up is hard, go to be earlier, get a better alarm clock, pick classes later in the day. Make accommodations for your own disability.

My ADD has me working from home, with noise cancelling headphones. I accommodated my own-self.