- People will be so sick of online dating that "singles culture" will make a come-back, primarily for millennials who are 35+ and freaking out about life priorities (kids, partner, etc.) I expect to see lots of "speed dating" and stuff like that appear out of nowhere as everyone become more sexually open-minded but also wants human connection.

- The US government will begin to talk about 10 year + plans for the first time in over a centry. Biden will do a bragging tour on the infrastructure bill leading into the election and "long termism" will become a meme.

- Cannabis will be re-scheduled to Schedule III and will become basically legal for all Americans.

- Bitcoin will be strong, all other cryptos will flounder. Ethereum will stay alive, and NFTs will make a bit of a come-back, but not like the first wave.

- People will make serious efforts to stop owning cars and demand more transit options from their cities and townships. These plans will be very glamourous and take 10 years to complete (or get started). Some may stop owning phones.

- Alcohol will take on a "weird" place in culture in response to growing cannabis and psychedelics usage. Some people will become very proud of their drinking and others will judge them very harshly. It will probably end up a culture war issue.

- We will see extraordinary acts of public violence in American streets, with responsibility probably shared between citizens, gangs, and the police.

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Obviously, we also meet for 1:1s and do lots of hand-holding for new hires, but having that template really helps make our onboarding more brainless (for us, not the hire) and seamless (for both parties).

In reality, sometimes you have to just BS things, as others have suggested, by holding some work back from your big flow-state pushes, or by dithering around with words like "I looked into...". It sounds like your standups are more about making management feel better than they are about engineers removing obstacles from each other. That's a hard problem to solve and probably outside the scope of what you can affect. Just do the best you can to survive and be successful in the situation you're in.

If I had any advice to give, it's to learn from how harmful and toxic this pattern is, and as you move up into seniority and management, make efforts to not repeat this mistake. Standup should be a time to discuss how the TEAM is making progress on delivering value to customers, not a time to compare individual efforts against each other. Managers should be involved enough in the lives of their teams to be able to make disciplinary or promotional calls for individual contributors without standup being where they receive that signal.

2. Do it a lot and the novelty will wear off, making it easier over time. No replacement for hours behind the wheel.

3. It's not related to anxiety, but the best book on public speaking I've ever read is "Ad Herennium", attributed to Cicero, but probably not written by him. I read it as a teenager and it changed me. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhetorica_ad_Herennium