That said, body positivity shouldn't be thought of as having anything to say about objective physical health: there is zero reason a person who is obese should necessarily feel bad about themselves. Shame is a useless or detrimental approach to changing behavior; shame is oftentimes the reason people engage in unhealthy behaviors like overeating in the first place. Being overweight is an obvious health danger, but it does not make you a bad person.

Somewhere in the idiot echo chamber of social media the idea of a healthy sense of self worth got conflated with a healthy body.

Have you ever read a good book on art theory or art history? By whom? Have you ever, as an artist, sat around with someone in the same practice and wanted to talk about the meat of what it is you're doing? 'I like the colour' is a fine thing to say, but anyone who is even slightly curious will follow it up with I wonder why? or I wonder if there are any colors I don't like or any of a million other questions. Letting it sit at 'I like the colour' is kind of lame.

Or maybe all discussion of art is 'a gussied up version of "I like the colour";' in that case, then all software engineering is making colored lights blink in patterns--see how useless it is to ignore complexity?

I don't want to have a phone call with you about your boring, detrimental attitudes towards art and other people's appreciation of it. I go out of my way to inject myself into discussions exactly like this one because, as I said, I repeatedly see engineering-brained people (who have a lot of sway) going out of their way to deride Other People's Good Time, and I want you to stop doing it.

Let people enjoy things, it doesn't hurt you. Leave them alone.

oh no

it's a multi-tier confidence game

my least favorite part of engineering is that it is led by smart, capable humans who diligently build systems to destroy the best things about being a human

if there is a social conflict (and boy are there social conflicts), not talking about those social problems is tacit support for the dominant position. pretending that one's work life can be neatly compartmentalized and has no bearing on the rest of the world is a fantasy of those who value their own comfort over the well being of others