<rss version="2.0" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"><channel><title>Hacker News: zzalpha</title><link>https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=zzalpha</link><description>Hacker News RSS</description><docs>https://hnrss.org/</docs><generator>hnrss v2.1.1</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 13 Jun 2026 17:38:19 +0000</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://hnrss.org/user?id=zzalpha" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"></atom:link><item><title><![CDATA[New comment by zzalpha in "Should Your Spouse Be Your Best Friend?"]]></title><description><![CDATA[
<p>Fair point, I've edited the comment to clean it up.</p>
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<p>Condescension?<p><i>This article is all kinds of horrifying. ... "We are just going through the motions cuz we gotta. Kind of like plunging the toilet."?</i><p><i>Maybe you should go read a book like "Lovers in marriage" before you go trying to write anymore marriage advice.</i><p><i>Or, you know, you can make time for each other because this is the most important person in your life. Instead of making excuses.</i><p>I could go on.<p>I did not set the tone, here, and I stand by my comment.</p>
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<p><i>Complaining about your spouse to your friends is a wonderful way to damage your relationship; the unthinking assumption that you should be venting about your spouse is harmful and should be challenged.</i><p>Just on this point, I couldn't agree more.<p>The problem with "venting" is that whomever is listening is almost certainly part of your personal echo chamber.  And when dealing with a problem in one's marriage, the last thing people need are mirrors reflecting themselves.<p>I can't tell you the number of times I've come out of a fight with my wife where, some time later, I realized I was a total ass and needed to apologize for my behaviour.<p>If I'd "vented" to someone, odds are it would've just hardened my resolve.</p>
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<p>(edited for tone)<p>In many perfectly healthy, normal marriages, there's a disparity (sometimes significant) in sexual interest/appetite between the spouses that has absolutely nothing to do with their love for each other and everything to do with basic biological, sociological, and psychological differences.<p>In such a marriage, sexual intimacy actually requires focused effort to maintain.  Not "work".  That makes it sound transactional in nature.  But effort.  Like, you have to prioritize it.<p>To suggest that marriages in which this is necessary are somehow broken is simply unfair.  Every marriage is unique and beyond basic expectations of love and decency, it's unreasonable to use ones own experiences as the template by which to judge other people's relationships.</p>
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<p>Hey, if it works for you, it works for you.<p>That said, I'm curious to hear what kinds of things you're referring to.  Do you have some fictional examples?<p>My wife and I each have our own best friends, but in my own marriage (14 years... since we all have to publish our credentials ;), if there's something I can't tell me wife, it's something I wouldn't tell <i>anyone</i>, best friends included.<p>The only obvious exception is if it's something about the marriage itself, but in that case, I'd speak to a friend first only if I needed to work out my own thoughts and emotions before I then talked to my wife.  So even in that case, it's more a matter of timing than keeping certain things from her entirely.</p>
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<p>I think the word "goal" is too strong, here, but it is a valid point.<p>People change, and in a good marriage, the spouses should absolutely push each other to change in ways that are healthy and positive.<p>It's simply ridiculous to assume that whomever you're marrying, right now, is the person they will be for the rest of their lives, or that you shouldn't try to influence those changes.<p>In fact, that goes beyond just marriages... I would hope that, in all of my relationships, be it as friend, brother, husband, or son, I am a positive influence on my loved ones, and that those people are a positive influence on me.</p>
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<p>I'm not sure where I came across this concept, but I've heard the use of a terminal described as entering into an interactive conversation with the computer.<p>That is, where users of a point-and-click interface might interact with a computer superficially, the command-line allows for a fluidity of expression and progression of intent that it's extremely difficult to supplant.<p>When you realize this, the mistake this comic makes is obvious:  the command-line is, for many problem domains, simply a superior method of human-computer interaction.  In fact, in many ways, it's the GUI that squanders the immense power we have at our fingertips, as it frequently makes it more difficult to express intent rather than less.<p>For example, here's a basic task:  Find all files in a given directory with spaces in their names, and replace those spaces with underscores.<p>At a command-line I can think of any number of ways to solve this problem.  I'd probably opt for a combination of find, sed, and bash looping.<p>Now try to do this efficiently in any existing GUI interface that isn't purpose built for this exact operation.<p>The conversations we enter into on the command-line allow us to iteratively build up solutions to problems, solving them with simple, composable tools.  There is simply no GUI equivalent.</p>
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<p>So what are the benefits over Tor?</p>
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<p>How so?  If it's under individual control, you'll just end up with sub-networks where people will agree to distribute that type of content.<p>You cannot pair anonymity and security with censorship.  They are fundamentally incompatible.  So either accept that nasty content will be out there, or acknowledge that you don't actually want perfect anonymity and security.</p>
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<p>How is this different from Freenet or Tor?</p>
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<p>Which is, of course, extremely misleading because income tax is hardly the only tax people pay...</p>
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<p><i>and they're motivated by money/views/prestige instead of destabilization to fulfill geopolitical goals.</i><p>Exactly the point.<p>Look, there's this thing in western jurisprudence called "mens rea".  It's what differentiates, say, first degree murder from manslaughter.<p>In this case, RT and Sputnik are clearly motivated by the desire to manipulate the US election.  As you've already conceded, those other outlets are not.  As a result, these represent different acts, and therefore it is not unreasonable for them to warrant different responses.</p>
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<p>ROFL, wow, talk about cherry-picking to make a case...<p>The fact is the US offers the least PTO of any developed nation.  Same goes with sick leave and mat/pat leave.<p>And free lunch?  Free bus passes?  Stock and option plans, profit sharing, educiation/tuition, retirement, gym memberships... HA!<p>I know this is shocking, but:  most of the world isn't SV.  Those benefits are fantasies for the vast majority of American salaried employees.<p>Many people I know live with 2 weeks of combined PTO, 3 months of maternity leave (mandated by law... ish... there's a bunch of exclusions) and no paternity leave whatsoever, basic health care, and a 401k match if they're lucky.<p>Now, I'm not claiming that a salaried employee isn't more expensive than a contract employee.  That's objectively true.  And in a very real sense, the entire point and why this trend is alarming:  the more people pushed to underemployement (part-time or contract work), the more people who don't realize those additional benefits, thus contributing to the ongoing demolition of the middle class.<p>But the US workplace is hideously behind the rest of the western world, and is still managing to lead the way in underemployment as well.  After a while you really gotta wonder why that is...</p>
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<p><i>The taxi drivers would get paid more due to having monopolies in most cities and fares would be outrageous.</i><p>Uhh... Uber is, like, 5-6 years old in most locales, less in many.  This isn't some alternative universe we have to imagine.  We just have to think back to before 2010... you know, the before time.  The long long ago.<p>And back then, taxi rates were hardly "outrageous".  Hell, even today, Uber isn't necessarily that much cheaper in a lot of places.</p>
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<p>I don't understand the question.  It's not like a ketogenic diet results in a lack of blood glucose... which is good, because if it did, it would kill you.<p><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gluconeogenesis" rel="nofollow">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gluconeogenesis</a></p>
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<p>Your reading is simplistic.<p>This is talking about blood glucose levels, which is influenced by many factors, including glucose production in the liver.</p>
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<p><i>I don't know why so many people think this is the case and then hate on the product.</i><p>Because that's how it's positioned in the market?<p>Like, literally what they claim it's for, and supposedly the reason they went into business?<p>Heck, Rhinehart once claimed "I have not set foot in a grocery store in years. Nevermore will I bumble through endless confusing aisles like a pack-donkey searching for feed while the smell of rotting flesh fills my nostrils and fluorescent lights sear my eyeballs and sappy love songs torture my ears."</p>
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<p><i>I'm Canadian and drink Soylent regularly, maybe like 2-4 times per month.</i><p>Random aside:  Once every week or two is considered "regular" consumption to you?<p>Isn't this product supposed to be the end-all and be-all of meal replacements?  What has curtailed your consumption?</p>
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<p>This is almost certainly about false claims/marketing based on usage of regulated industry terms.  Simply removing the offending labeling would bring them into compliance.</p>
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<p>I find it telling that you chose the verb "using" over, say, "eating"... :)</p>
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